It’s that time of year again. Where everyone is freaking out about what they’re going to buy their loved ones, and how they’re going to surprise them. Or most of the time, what they’re going to receive for Christmas. Will it be that huge diamond ring I’ve always wanted? Will it be a surprise getaway to Jamaica? Or am I gonna finally get that $30,000 car I’ve always wanted!?
Well I’m going to put it bluntly. That crap ruins people. After sitting and watching some of the most selfish behavior by humans, I still don’t understand it. I’m not excused from it either. I have selfish wants and desires too. We would all LOVE to go on a vacation to the Cayman Islands, or heck, take me to Europe. That will make my lifetime right there. I also need a new car. I’m being serious. I NEED IT. But let’s be honest, are we in the right time of our lives to go on such frivolous vacations? Can we really afford that brand new car? Or are we just buying things to make us happy…for now? In the long run, do they really, internally fill us up inside? Or are they just an escape from our dismal unhappiness we call life?
Think about it. Why do you want those expensive things you want? Why do you nag and gripe about your life, and ask to be taken on some expensive trip or to receive some expensive gift? Do those things really make you happy inside? Or are they covering up something deeper? For some people, yes. It does make them truly happy. Which is deeply saddening to me. People that are joyed by the material, unimportant things in life, sadden me.
What will this gift do for you? Will it put you further into debt, therefore creating more stress and putting strain on your relationships? I mean, you’re happy for that week you’re there, and maybe the week after, but afterwards, what did it serve you? Sure, a nice car is different. We deserve to be treated every once in awhile, and it feels good. It also does good things for our psyche to be treated every once in awhile. But if these treats or gifts are all that you look forward to in life, and if all you do is work…to go on vacation…what is the purpose of that? Where is the joy in that?
We should really take a step back and look at the reason why we want materialistic things. If it’s to make us happy for the moment, maybe we need to take some time and work on ourselves. Take care of ourselves. If it’s to fix something wrong in our relationship, well…..maybe we should just look into really fixing it with starting a new hobby or project together, bond and just be happy in each other’s company, couple’s therapy, etc. If it’s to relieve some stress, go to the gym, get some vitamin C in ya, take a bubble bath, blare music and dance around your house, idk. (Yes I do all of those things when I’m home alone.) Do what makes YOU happy.
Now I’m not talking down to people that desire these things, because, heck yeah I desire them too. But I also know when something is too much. If what I want requires me to go into debt, be severely stressed out, put strains on my relationships with others, and negatively affect my mood in the long run, I’m out. I don’t need that right now. I’ll maybe take some time, get my priorities in order, then come back to that idea when I’m more stable in my life.
We all want, want, want, and take, take take. Wouldn’t it be nice if we considered being grateful, content, and tried giving instead? The relationships we have in this life are what’s important, not the things we acquire in it. Work on those relationship we have now, and quit worrying so much about how material things will make you look to other people. Truthfully, we don’t care that much anyways.
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